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Mar 22, 2007


It's so hard, isn't it? You just have to accept that it's her problem and actually nothing at all to do with you personally. It's absolutely out of your hands and there's nothing you can do to change her. I find that sometimes (sometimes!) helps me not to rise to my M-I-L's bait but God it's hard!


I think you should give your self permission to give up. Think about how to manage the relationship to make yourself happier and less stressed. Let the husband take the kids to see her and go get a pedicure! You have our permission, you've tried hard for 10 years for pete's sake! good luck!


Wow! Your story is amazingly similar to mine! I don't know what to do either. I have decided that all I can do is be polite and create opportunities for my kids to have a relationship with their Grandmother, and not give resistance to my husband trying to have a relationship with his mother. That's it... just be polite. We don't have to like our MIL's and they don't have to like us. We've got to quit seeking affirmation from our MIL's because that's an unhealthy/abusive place to look for it. Thanks for sharing that story. I'm glad to know I'm not alone and not imagining things as my husband would suggest.

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