So many DILs have a great relationship with their MIL during courtship, then it all goes wrong during wedding planning, and truly falls apart with the birth of the first grandchild. My MIL was held largely in check by my extremely assertive husband during our wedding planning (OK she suggested ridiculous and ugly things), but it didn't stop her from calling us 1 hour before the rehearsal and saying "I'm not coming to the rehearsal" That's it. Pause for dramatic effect. OK, why aren't you coming? And then she unleashes some inane hysterical story about visiting relatives and hairdressers and missing people that I still don't know nor care about. I'm proud to say we didn't take the bait (A major theme of my MIL success) and we cheerfully said, ok, we'll see you later! I know many of you have truly horrendous wedding stories, feel free to unleash....
Posted: | February 15, 2007 at 04:21 PM
Right as we were pronouced man and wife my MIL shouted at the top of her lungs, "Now when do I get my grandbabies!"
My MIL got completely wasted at our rehearsal dinner, and bitched out my husband for the food being bad (after making some inebriated toasts) Then she cried and cried. Lovely. He is an only child, she is divorced and she just freaked out because she was losing control of him.
My mother in law wanted us to get married in her local pub. Its not close to any of the other guests, and well, a really really tacky place, so we decided on where we were going to have it. She called adn told me that she wasnt coming so I said, thats a shame why is that? she started on this tirade about how i wouldnt let her plan the day! We got an acceptance from her a week later. She then called while drunk and abused me and said she didnt think i was good enough for her son and so wouldnt come, I told her to hold on and put hubby on the phone and he said hell and she didnt say anything to him about it. The day of the wedding, she abused my mother, told me my dress looked crap, whinged at me for about 20 minutes told all the guests taht me and my mum plotted against her so she couldnt do anything (my mum had never met her, and even still we were trying to find things for her to do, but she just wouldnt do them) told everyone she paid for the wedding, and got no credit for it (thats coz WE paid!) and even claimed other guests gifts as her own (she got us somethung small, then found out her ex husband gave us a dryer so told everyone she gave us that)
We then get a call 2 weeks after teh wedding saying 'why arent you talking to me?'